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Wednesday 6 April 2022

The COMMODITY

 

  • The Commodity


Women are perceived and treated in an objectified manner, and that women's images and bodies are exposed to practices of commodification gives me concerns as I have been influenced by great Women all my life especially as a Man raised by an exceptional Single Mother.





You are not a real Man, a civilized Society or a Brand to associate with if you do the following things amongst others;

  • You Dehumanize Women.

  • You Sexualize Women.

  • You Disrespect Women.

  • You leave a Woman to do house chores and cooking alone.

  • You think Women are Baby making and caring machines.

  • You don’t consider a shared pleasure during Sex.

  • You don't recognise or accept a woman’s voice or opinion at meetings and deliberation.

  • You disagree with Women taking Leadership roles.

  •  If you think you exist or can exist without a Woman.


I can go on and on with a full list of factors that dehumanizes Women in different forms which needs to be checked even from how we raise and groom our Children both Male and Female. We need to stop stereotyping our Children or building their masculinity vs femininity or preference. Raise them equally. They say charity begins at home, i say equality awareness/education begins from the womb right from conception.

A Girl Child is equally the same as a Boy Child and in most cases a Girl Child is more dependable contrary to popular opinion. 


A Society that Respects Women is a Prosperous Society!....  Kayode Gomes .


It is sad that we do not value the regenerators of mankind.

Whether we like it or not, Women run the world, they teach us most of what we think we know, they shape our minds and prepare us for adulthood. No matter who or what you are as a Man, I believe you can relate. 


Overtime i have come to realize that part of being a man is not just by your masculinity, abilities, strength, societal privileges or superiority, but your ability to recognise the strength and impact of Women. The value of equality and respect for Women cannot be overemphasized. 


Based on research, men are likely to die an average of four to five years before women; have you ever wondered why? (food for thought).... 


We have to learn and accept equal chances, opportunities, pleasure, freedom, knowledge, strength and value. Any family, community, entity and/or a nation that wants to experience peace, care, growth and development must nurture and treat women right. Women's voices must be heard and they must enjoy an enabling environment, equal opportunities and shared experience.


From my understanding; Woman (Eve) experienced civilization before Man (Adam) even though Adam was created first by God.

Women have more potential and have multitasking abilities unlike men and they should not be taken for granted or misused. 

Women and Girls are not commodities and must be treated as human beings with equal rights as Men and Boys…. Kayode Gomes


And in both ways, we should all enjoy equality and not dominance!

Wednesday 9 June 2021

Defending the Defenders!



 

Defending the Defenders!


Kayode Gomes in Prison Custody with 21 others in Ghana 

for “Defending LGBT + Activities” and “illegal assembly”....


The media stormed the hotel and took photos before calling the police to come and arrest the participants - which they did, after confiscating their belongings. Police said the arrests were “in defense of LGBT + activities”.

A Ho District Court ordered the continued detention of the 21 innocent people until their hearing scheduled for June 4, 2021.

These arrests are illegal: no law provides for a ban on meetings for advocacy or LGBT + subjects. It is a constitutional right.

Those detained did not have access to a lawyer before being brought to court. Some of them suffer from illnesses and need treatment.

We call on the police/court to immediately release these 21 people and drop the charges.

We also call on the Ghanaian authorities to address the issue of harassment against LGBT + people in the country, and to ask in writing the police to stop arbitrary arrests based on actual or perceived sexual orientation, non-compliance. gender or consensual same-sex relationships.


"This was my story in 2015 when I was arrested with other social work colleagues and community members while we were conducting a health sensitization program in Kaduna, Nigeria". 


Today is the story of these brave activists that have been held in prison custody since May 20th 2021.

While the court keeps adjourning their case we call on all goodwill individuals and institutions to come to their aid in any form possible and by signing the petition below.

 


We call for their release immediately and drop all charges.

Please add your name and join us in the fight for LGBT+ rights! http://a.allout.org/s/WNnYp/

https://action.allout.org/fr/m/f217eb3/?utm_campaign=mgp-f217eb3&utm_source=whatsapp&utm_medium=social

Saturday 13 March 2021

Meet Adel “A Special Child with Special Abilities”

 Meet Adel “A Special Child with Special Abilities” 

Here is Adel Ogidi, a 13 year old teenager with Down syndrome who is passionate about fashion, style and interestingly Nigeria. He also loves music and plays the drum set….

Born Different to make a Difference 

My story of becoming reflects on my journey so far and projects hope and optimism as I believe that  I mirror the image of a Nation Becoming... 

 

Like the lines drawn on a map, I was born with a different DNA strand, divided from the norms of society, my very being and upbringing defining uniqueness. 

 

We are tagged the same, a nation underdeveloped, a boy born with disability. We take our time to grow, every part of us the obvious blocks that make us different. 

 

The product of a union, the outcome of an agreement. We may not have come as they expected, but we still are and much more than their limited expectations for us.

 

We now rise with a certainty, that as a man becomes, so a Nation emerges.


#Adelshimi


 

One with Nigeria


There is a People, they are a nation. I represent them all.

 

As in our diversity lies the potential of unity, growth and development, so also in me lies the potential of a Man with a lot of love to give.

 

I am Adel, I'm becoming a man, consciously nurtured by the choice, commitment and courage of a Mother.

 

But for our nation, it must be you.

Make the choice, be committed, be courageous.

 

Together, we can make our nation work.

 

#Adelshimi





















Friday 12 March 2021

Nigeria My Country!!! “A Disaster of my Generation”

 Nigeria My Country!!!

          “A Disaster of my Generation”


So, i do not know where to pick it up or where to begin, it is bad enough that Africa has been made to become shambles despite the fact that she is the first and greatest continent on earth which is why our white brothers came to steal our resources from us and even made us slaves and till date we are yet to wake up from this curse. But this article is not focused on Africa or the White people but on my so called country tagged as Giant of Africa “Nigeria”.


It still marvels me how a giant suddenly became an ant where illiterates and criminals are ruling the elites, literates and icons. How on earth did we get here and why is it so difficult for us to make a change?

Some people blame the white people for structuring and naming Nigeria, some blame the god forsaking government and good for nothing criminals, but i blame Nigerians all around the world including myself.


Like Aremu Afolanyan mentioned in one of his videos; “The problem of Nigeria is Nigerians especially the youths”. There is power in unity, there is power in the crowd and there is power in our vote and voices… We have seen the same situations in other parts of the world especially in a democratic system. The people in government are just 1% of Nigerians. The military and police are just 3% of Nigerians but yet we have become slaves in our nation and can no longer speak freely or for our right due to oppression and fear.



I hear there are bandits, bokoharam, fulani headsmen and now the jihadist are springing up, yet non of the them caught, the entire Nigerian military and police force do not have sophisticated weapons to face them and all that bullshit… But yet, the bandits have a face and representatives negotiating with the Nigerian government on their behalf, yet Nigerian police force and military have sophisticated weapons to attack peaceful protesters.


Nigerians and the entire world need to realise that the government is behind all the atrocities and mayhem going on in Nigeria, they have made the country a playground where they gamble with people’s lives and cause distractions in order to steal and build wealth for themselves and their useless generations. And this is not about the Hausas or the Igbos or Yorubas but all Nigerians in government today are corrupt and devilish with pride.


If we as Nigerians do not get up to make a change, there will be no place to call home in coming years, if Africans around the world do not stand up to fight for one another, the African continent will become the past and not the future as we fool ourselves. Nigerians in the Diaspora waiting for when things will get better before they go back home are all foolish because no one will fix it for us. We all have to make our country and continent a home that we envision. Whatever we sow today will be what our generations will reap tomorrow.


And do not deceive yourselves waiting for international interventions because they are certainly benefiting from the ongoing chaos going on in different parts of Africa.

My People Wake Up!!! 


Tuesday 22 September 2020

MONSTERS YOU MADE!

 MONSTERS YOU MADE!

We need a change and it ain't no way I'ma take an excuse, My niggas finding a way or fucking smile in the grave. This is the price that you pay.... Burna Boy


It’s so sad some of us still consider our oppressors as saviours and our evil political & religious leaders as heroes. The inferiority complex of the African people has put us below our worth. It’s high time to wake up! hold our oppressors and leaders accountable..... Kayode Gomes

“If the government refuses to develop the region and continue the marginalisation and injustice... The youths and the next people coming after us, but it will be more brutal than what we have done.

Calling me a monster, calling us fake, No way, no way, no way.....Calling me a monster, just 'cause we say we're from the block where it rains, where we create barricades, keep opposition away. That's why we are strapped with the K's

Don't get kidnapped from your place 'Cause it could happen today. Not knowing how to behave, that is a sign that you may just lose your life, What a waste your body found in a lake. You fucked around and the fisherman found you drowning for days.

You know we come from a place where people smile but it's fake. How could they smile? If you look around they are surrounded by pain. I've seen the sky turn to grey, It took the light from the day. It's like the “Heads of the states” Ain't comprehending the hate that the oppressed generate when they've been working like slaves to get some minimum wage, you turn around and you blame them for their anger and rage, put them in shackles and chains because of what they became.

We are the monsters you made. Calling me a monster, calling us fake. You make the minotaur the dinosaur wake. Calling me a monster, just 'cause we say. No way, no way, no way. Calling me a monster, make no mistake that there's only so much that you can take. We are the monsters you made. 

I bet they thought it was cool, probably thought we were fools when we would break all the rules and skip them classes in school because the teacher dem teaching what the white man dem teaching. Dem European teachings in my African school. So fuck dem classes in school, Fuck mongo park and the fools that said they found river Niger. They've been lying to you, Ain't no denying the truth.

See what I'm tryin to do is draw the line for the mothers crying, we're dying as youths. Come walk a mile in my shoes, see if you smile at the truth, see if you digest your food, that's when you might have a clue of what the fuck we go through. You’re fucking lucky if you live through the day, better pray that God always stay with you. Ain't fucking safe anyday, the reaper'll be coming for you

We need a change and it ain't no way I'ma take an excuse, My niggas finding a way or fucking smile in the grave. This is the price that you pay....

We are the monsters you made, Calling me a monster, calling us fake. You make the minotaur the dinosaur wake. Calling me a monster, just 'cause we say. No way, no way, no way. Calling me a monster, make no mistake, that there's only so much that you can take. We are the monsters you made”....

Since we met your people 500 years ago, look at us, we have given everything, you are still taking. In exchange for that, we have got nothing and you know it.…. Ama Ata Aidoo


Saturday 5 September 2020

POVERTY PORN

 Poverty Porn


"Colonial relationships and attitudes can clearly be recognised in the communications of international aid organisations. Hungry black children and noble white saviours are still very much present in contemporary campaigning….. But many of the new, 'positive' or 'innovative' aid campaign genres are also very problematic, observe media scholars Emiel Martens (University of Amsterdam/EUR) and Wouter Oomen (University of Utrecht) in a recent article on OneWorld.nl that caused quite a lot of debate. 


New campaign genres often feature famous ambassadors that visit a project abroad, simulations of non-West misery (e.g. by being locked-up in a cage or painting faces of celebrities as if they have ebola), or adventure journeys such as hiking in Nepal or biking in Tanzania. What is going wrong? And how can campaigning in development aid be done in a more ethical way? 


Emiel Martens




Wouter Oomen


Martens and Oomen discuss these and other questions in 'Poverty Porn 2.0', the latest podcast of Disrupt Development hosted by Alexander Medik."

 

Listen to the podcast now at www.disruptdevelopment.org/episodes/povertyporn or on Spotify, iTunes or Google.

 

#developmentaid 

#internationaldevelopment 

#disruptdevelopment 

#shifthepower #media 

#globaldevelopment 

#humanitariancommunication


Credits - 


OneWorld.nl

DisruptDevelopment.org


Saturday 22 August 2020

The Height of Homophobia in the Netherlands!

The Height of Homophobia in the Netherlands!

A Nigerian Lesbian “Happy” was poured boiling water in asylum seekers' center: 

'Maybe the Netherlands is not safe enough'


It is so sad that we flee our homophobic countries in search of safety, acceptance and freedom only to meet our worse nightmares. The countries we consider safe havens have been compromised by homophobic, violent and barbaric asylum seekers whom also fled their countries of origin for different reasons only to claim they are homosexuals just to get resident papers. I urge the Immigration and Naturalization Service (IND), Asylum seekers organization, LGBTQI organizations and Volunteers to do more in-depth and thorough background checks as over 70% of asylum seekers whom claim to be gay are actually homophobic migrants using homosexuality as excuse. And I advise these perpetrators to use other reasons as there are many other reasons why you could be in danger in the regions you come from. It is so sad that people with the real stories and experience do not get a chance to really find safety and the freedom they seek for…. Kayode Gomes

The lesbian asylum seeker ‘Happy’ still can not believe what terrible suffering was done to her in early August. In an asylum seekers' center in the Netherlands she was poured boiling hot water. According to Happy, it also took far too long for her to receive proper medical attention. 

The Nigerian Lady tells her story ….



The incident happened on the night of Sunday 2 to Monday 3 August. Happy visited her friend Esther in an AZC in Gilze, Happy herself lives in another AZC. When Esther walks out after receiving a message, Happy realizes that something is wrong. She sees a man arguing with her girlfriend. “Security tried to take them apart,” Happy recalls. "But the man was too strong." Happy manages to convince her friend to let it go and to report it the next morning. When they walk back to their room, things go wrong again. The man beats up Esther while holding her baby on the arm. “At that moment we were brought out by security,” Happy tells Hart van Nederland. "Security was there all through." When Happy turns around, she sees a woman approaching with a bowl of boiling hot water. Happy did not hesitate for a moment and jumped between them, so the hot water got on her while she protected her girlfriend and the few month old baby.

"I could not believe it. It happened very quickly. The moment the water hit me, my skin came off, ”she continues. Despite everything, Happy does not regret her action. "Me and my girlfriend can survive this, but the baby can't." Happy and Esther have a really hard time with what happened. “I don't sleep at night. I cannot believe that this happened to me in the Netherlands ”, Happy tells with emotion. This is why we fled our own country Nigeria. Maybe the Netherlands is not safe enough.”

Esther has sought psychological help. She walks around feeling guilty. “I feel guilty that this happened to her. She shouldn't have to go through all that pain for me, ”she says. That night Esther received very nasty curses and threats at her head and found it incomprehensible that the couple also seemed to be after her child. “Why are you doing it when I'm with my child?” She says with tears in her eyes. The drama had a major impact on her son. He cried out that night and he hasn't eaten properly ever since.

The two women have doubts about the actions of the COA (Centraal Orgaan opvang Asielzoekers) in the evening in question. According to Happy, the security guard asked many questions because she does not live in the AZC in Gilze, so it took a long time before she received the right help. "It felt like my body was on fire by now, I think my injuries are worse than necessary," Happy continues. "If I had received the right help on time, it would have been less bad." Once she saw a doctor, she was immediately sent to the hospital: "It took quite a while before there was transport to the hospital." The COA informs Hart van Nederland that it immediately provided first aid to Happy and took her to the GP post.

LGBT Asylum Support organizes a card campaign for the injured lesbian to support her.
They also want to draw attention to violence by other LGBTI + people in asylum seekers' centers.
A 26-year-old man and a 21-year-old woman (Perpetrators), both from Nigeria, were arrested for the incident.



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